Friday, January 8, 2016

Chapter 15 - There Is a Child-Like, Teen-Like, and Adult-Like Way to Function in the World

As I sat outside by the river’s edge on a surprisingly warm September day, I observed some mallard ducks that were congregating on the other side. It seemed as if it was only yesterday when they had gathered around me by the river’s edge with a message to communicate. As I sat at the river’s edge watching them, I was thinking about how they would soon be migrating, leaving us to endure our cold winters without their presence, while they found somewhere warmer to reside.

As I continued to sit and watch the mallards paddling around on the river, I became fascinated by how they have to advance through the stages of being a duckling, then a young adult, and then fully mature in a very short span of time. We, as humans, tend to take a little longer to mature.

As I was thinking of the stages of development that various forms of life phase through, I found myself thinking, “I wonder if the collective consciousness or our collective mindsets go through maturity stages in the same way that our bodies and personal development do.”

“Of course they do,” I heard the voice of Mother Nature reply. “While you all have your own personal maturation process and lessons to learn, you are all here to play a part in the evolution and maturation of the collective consciousness as well.”

“That makes sense,” I replied back.

The voice of Nature continued, “The collective consciousness has been trapped in a child-like way of thriving within the world for a very long while.”

“How so?” I asked her.

“You all suffer from extensive and self-limiting emotional and other types of dependencies,” She answered. “In fact, if the infrastructures, institutions, hierarchies, or beliefs that you are codependent upon collapsed or were removed, many of you would not know how to survive.”

I thought about this for a while since it reminded me of my conversation with the moth. Here was the mention of “dependency” again. The message of the moth from yesterday had been, “Learn to support each other, grow together, share together, and empower one another in an interdependent way, a way that allows you to release your dependency on all that would have you only move inside a box instead of outside of one.” It does seem true that we are very dependent creatures. We tend to be very dependent upon the system and end up sucking at the teat of our parental figures, institutions, rules, lifestyles, and authorities that we believe (and expect) will take care of us.

As I pondered upon this, I heard my wise instructor’s voice again, “In a dysfunctional family, a parent may attempt to sabotage his or her child’s independence and maturation process in order to keep the child dependent. This process is not necessarily conscious. It may even be interpreted as necessary for survival.”

Thinking back upon my own family’s dynamic, I could definitely relate to this concept. Not only does the concept of sabotage apply to the “parent” in this situation but to the child as well. Even when full-grown, an adult can sabotage his or her own maturation process, preferring to remain dependent upon the parent in ways, such as through needing money, parental approval, or other things.

As I thought about many of the dysfunctional ways family members interact with one another, I heard the voice of Mother Nature encourage me, “This is also what is happening at a societal level.”

“Can you give an example?” I asked her.

“Yes,” She replied. “For instance, you could consider your religious institutions, monetary and other systems, your sources of authority and power, and your convoluted ideals and rules as mind-made and man-made constructs that set up a situation where you feel unable to mature or gain independence outside of them. You feel helpless. Then this helplessness can be taken advantage of by the dysfunctional and patriarchal ‘parents’ or groups that you serve.”

“For what purpose?” I asked. “For what purpose do they take advantage of us?”

“For the purpose of attaining more power and control,” She replied. “Such a goal can only arise from a feeling of insecurity and greed. This said, the striving for power and control is something that influences many of your smaller and more daily lives. So, it is not as if these authorities are acting completely out of character with what is common behavior to an entire collective of individuals. The larger authorities around you merely exhibit a need for power and control in a more visible way.”

I paused for a moment to think about the issue and then posed the question, “I guess it is time to break away then?”

“Yes,” She replied. “That is, if you wish to mature past your present state of evolution and understanding.”

“It just seems such a huge leap to make,” I said. “It really is as if we are babies. What I mean is that it would be like asking a baby to know how to survive without its parents all in one step.”

“You do, as humans, like to make everything about all or nothing,” She replied, “as if it is making one large leap or making no leap at all.”

“It seems that is how everything is often explained to me, that one state of being is ‘wrong’ while the other state of being is ‘right,’” I confessed, “So, my desire is to do only the ‘right’ thing.”

“Try not to think of your evolution in terms of all or nothing or right or wrong,” She replied. “Think of it in terms of expanding your understanding and consciousness. Any effort you take is neither right nor wrong but can create favorable or less than favorable fruits for yourself and the whole—but only within the dream of life, not your spiritual reality. As a first step, many of you would benefit from maturing in your understanding of your collective situation of what isn’t working for you before you proceed with trying to do what you feel is ‘right.’ After all, you wouldn’t let a child out on their own to wander in the streets if he or she hadn’t become mature enough to understand how to not get hit by traffic.”

“That is true!” I exclaimed.

“So humanity, too, can learn lessons that will help it to gain more understanding,” She advised me. “If you all attempted to abandon your governments, systems, rules, and religions all in one step, chaos would likely result. Not that creating chaos would be ‘bad’ or ‘wrong.’ But if you act too hastily without forethought, you could attract severe and unnecessary retaliation and violence. Much like the rebellious child who gets sent to his room for disobeying his or her parents, you do not want to be thrown in jail.”

“Nor do I want to end up on the streets with no way to survive!” I said with a chuckle.

“No,” She assured me. “So, instead, you must find a way, within your limited maturity and understanding, to increase your independence and free thinking through becoming less dependent upon the paternal structures and voices in the world that want to tell you who to be, what you must become, how to survive in the world, how to follow the rules, and more. You must learn, like all young adults, to carve your own way. You must also understand that by carving such a way, you have the potential to carve it for the collective, if the collective—or a portion of it—should follow.”

“This phase of ‘carving our way’ sounds like it would be the teenage phase,” I said. “It seems like the indigos are expressing some of that teenager energy at present.”

“Yes,” She said. “The consciousness that you label ‘indigo’ seems to embody more of an energy of transmutation and change. There is a huge population of humans upon the planet who are tuning into this consciousness stream and beginning to question authority.”

“This is a good thing, right?” I asked.

“Yes, if the energy does not become too stuck,” She answered. “In this teenage phase, the consciousness can become stuck on seeing the authorities around them as suppressors of their independence and ‘the enemy.’”

“That is natural that this would happen, though,” I offered.

“Yes, but you are asked to press beyond this stage to see the full truth,” She confirmed.

“A problem can occur if the indigo consciousness sets itself upon a path of dismantling the system, while still wanting to be taken care of by the patriarchal infrastructure, enjoying all of the perks that this infrastructure has to offer. It would be better if the indigo or teenager saw that there are rewards for maintaining obedience, and that the teenager is no longer entitled to receive these rewards after leaving the system behind.”

“That kind of reminds me of when Jesus told people ‘render to Caesar what is Caesar’s,’” I said, “because it is not like we can use money that belongs to our governments and leaders and then decide not to pay taxes.”

“Yes,” said my guide. “When you use something that does not belong to you, there are consequences and rules for its usage.”

“That also reminds me of all of the uproar that is going on regarding our electric companies putting smart meters on our homes,” I said. “However, if we are using their product, they have a right to do whatever they want if it creates efficiency for gathering their data, etc. We can’t simply expect we can tell them how they must offer their product and services while feeling they will be obligated to listen and comply. We can, however, stop using their product and solve our dilemma at that end. Then it becomes an issue of supply and demand. If they want to keep their product in demand, they will have to change how they supply it. Plus, it is probably better for us to get away from our reliance on power companies anyway. If more of us can turn to self-sustainable sources of power, then we will not have to fight so hard for something that only serves to keep us dependent and subject to someone else’s rules.”

“Though the fight you see them fighting seems a fruitless one to you,” She said, “it is better than complacency. For you, yourself, understand how difficult it is to become ‘sustainable.’ Otherwise, you would have done so already. And, not all of you are ready to make that leap or have the capability or resources.”

“Ah, I see,” I said.

“Though you are right,” She explained, “that, to prevent becoming locked into a pattern, there is a need to place your mind upon finding or learning more about alternatives. So, the next step is, as you say, to realize that the real issue is the dependency that needs to be broken through finding another alternative. If the indigo consciousness becomes locked into being unable to find another way, then, much like a teenager, it may begin to harbor a great sense of inner resentment and a false sense of entitlement. When this type of consciousness gets trapped in its sense of entitlement, it can become hypocritical and unmoving. All it will know is that it wants to enjoy the perks of being part of a dysfunctional infrastructure while at the same time not wanting to follow the parents’ rules. It must then resent that it only follows these rules out of fear. Such an entitled stance will only correct itself when the consciousness learns how to take responsibility for itself and move beyond its codependency and resentments.”

“True,” I said.

“The indigo consciousness can, if not careful, become overly rebellious and blameful,” She continued. “Much in the same way rebellious teenagers can.”

“This is at least, as you said before, better than not making any shift at all,” I said.

“Yes, of course,” was Her reply. “Being stuck in a phase is not wrong but merely delays the advancement in your understanding and consciousness.”

“I know some people can view the rebellious and revolutionary energy of the indigos as aggressive, angry, or negative,” I said.

“Yes, this indigo process that is happening can appear negative at times,” She relayed, “because it is bringing feelings of disempowerment to the surface and, with this, the realization of a certain level of dysfunction, deception, and abuse that is ongoing. However, it still demonstrates an advancement in the maturation level of the collective consciousness beyond its child-like complacency.”

There was a short pause in our conversation, and then She continued, “There is a struggle that is going on within the consciousness of the Western world, and this struggle is necessary. It is something that can be moved through to gain greater understanding and maturation.”

“What is that struggle?” I asked Her.

“The struggle is that a large body of the collective knows it wants independence, but does not know anything beyond its codependency and its feeling of being stuck,” She answered. “It doesn’t know anything beyond its feeling of being unable to do anything other than to continue to obey its masters, including the corporations that offer conveniences and many toys to enjoy. So this body of the collective must become creative and willing to make a few sacrifices. This is similar to the path of the young adult who must make sacrifices in order to begin to make his or her own way in the world. After all, such a young adult can no longer rely on his or her parents for continuous financial security and emotional support. In similar terms, the indigo portion of the collective—as you call it—must envision ways in which it can begin to separate from the patriarchal authorities that attempt to parent it. It must make the sacrifices involved to start an independent life without them.”

“Is there anything else you can tell us about the child-like phase of the collective consciousness and how to recognize it?” I asked. “I know we are talking about the teen-like phase, but I want to make sure I fully understand the child-like phase first.”

“In the child-like phase, the focus of the child is on serving and pleasing the good mother and father,” She counseled. “Here you have dissociated yourself from a good mother, and, in place of the good father, you are parented by a stepfather who makes rules to be followed. This stepparent has become an absent and abusive parent to a degree. In fact, you could say that you live as a guest in a household where your True Mother[1] and Father are entities without much influence. The stepfather has supplanted everything. Your True Mother—who could nurture you—is being abused by your stepfather while the whole household stands by and can do nothing except participate.”

“Wow, interesting. I never thought of it like that,” I acknowledged.

“Well, begin to think of it like that,” my guide said, “and you will be closer to the truth of your situation than where many of you stand now.”

“But, that way of seeing our reality places the child in the position of having to protect its Mother rather than the other way around,” I informed. “This is what happens in dysfunctional families.”

“Yes,” She agreed, “but the perspective should be less on viewing the Mother as to be protected so much as maturing enough that you can step outside of the family dynamic and not become a participant in what the stepfather is doing to Her.”

“Can you explain that more?” I asked.

“Yes,” She replied. “You could try viewing it instead as a process similar to a human situation where a child grows into a young adult where he or she is then able to give up the job of having to protect the mother—in the case of an abusive family dynamic. By becoming free, the young adult no longer feels obligated to be part of the cycle of abuse. When it comes to your collective situation, you have the choice to let go of relying on your stepfather—that is, the patriarchal forces of the world—as you are able, in order to rely on the support of your True Father instead. Once you have stepped outside of the dysfunctional dynamic, you can then see that your True Mother was always there for you—to love, nurture, and support you. You can then develop a new symbiotic relationship with Her where there is give and take and mutual respect.”

“Ah, I see,” I said.

“Right now, there is a subtle disdain for the Mother,” the message continued. “She has provided of Her endless bounty but could not protect you from your controlling and rigid stepfather. The controlling stepfather—not just your government, educational, and religious institutions, but media and culture—has conditioned your mind away from knowing the love of the True Mother and Father to a degree. Through their own unconsciousness, they taught you how to think in ways that did not give value to the True Mother or to your True Father. They demanded, instead, complete obedience to a system and way of life that leaves you feeling limited, depleted, and confined.”

“I guess all the abuses—including religious and other forms of persecution—that have happened throughout history could be seen as the stepparent punishing the child for disobedience, while thinking it knows best,” I mused.

“Of course!” She exclaimed. “Humanity was too child-like to understand its true freedom and felt too weak and small to do anything about it.”

“It is funny that Christians may label God as a jealous God,” I imparted. “It seems more like the stepfather is jealous and tries to separate the child from knowing its True Father’s love.”

“Your True Father simply wants you to know him as your only Father,” She replied. “His greatest desire is that you understand that He does not obligate you to follow a stepfather who attempts to co-opt His parental position.”

“Reading on the Essenes, they seem to have found ways to avoid being ruled too much by a ‘stepfather’ while still being able to live in alignment with their values espousing purity, vegetarianism, and their own truth,” I said. “They kind of secluded themselves from the mainstream of human life, however, living in more self-sustaining communities. It seems that they are kind of like the Amish and Mennonite communities, or the newer communities forming now that are off-grid or eco-friendly.”

“If a community or tribe can arise,” Mother Nature said, “that can understand how to support itself without the need to depend so much on power companies, infrastructures, the monetary system, and manufacturers of conveniences, it has embraced the more adult-like way to live and thrive. In essence, it has outgrown its child-like need for pacifiers and toys, to a degree. It has let go of the need to be pacified at every instance.”

“Our child-like need for toys and to be pacified at every instance probably leads many of us into unhealthy behaviors and addictions,” I expressed. “Kind of like we are spoiled…”

“Not ‘spoiled,’” She offered, “just not conscious that you can make a choice to move in another direction.”

“It’s funny because Illuminati conspiracy theorists tell us that our government’s agenda is to keep us distracted so we are never moved to challenge that agenda,” I said. “I guess there is some truth to that.”

“There is truth to a degree,” She responded, “but the problem is more locked into the collective mindset as a whole. After all, no one is forcing anything upon you that you haven’t agreed with.”

“I guess we do agree with everything,” I said, “to a degree.”

“You yourself brought up that your economy operates through a law of supply and demand,” She reminded me. “If so, you are all intimately in charge.”

“What do you mean when you say we are ‘intimately in charge’?” I asked Her.

“I mean that due to your own feelings of powerlessness, and feeling unable to escape this state, you create for yourselves your own pacifiers, toys, and conveniences to keep you distracted and amused. These items can end up becoming your prison. You will even indebt yourself to have and own them. Then your distractions become one more thing you will have to give up to accommodate change. Your primary fear, however, is of changing the parental dynamic. Your secondary fear is of the power of the parent. Both of these fears keep you locked into something you feel hopeless to ever be free of.”

“I think many of us don’t even want to be free,” I admitted.

“Why would you when you could enjoy so many comforts and benefits through remaining in captivity?” She asked me. “But, the perks are not worth this feeling of confinement you feel locked into, particularly having to work excessively, and having to worry at all times if you will have enough to support yourselves. Add to this that you now have to worry about the fruits that are becoming more visible within My bounty. What is being revealed is that something is toxic and amiss.”

There was a pause for a bit, and then She continued, “The other fallacy is the belief that the people who work within the system—making laws and in positions of control and leadership—are not anything more than children themselves.”

“People have a hard time seeing that,” I said. “They can’t see that our leaders are locked into the same dilemma we all are.”

“Yes,” She said. “They are also children to the patriarchal way of life that is embedded into the collective consciousness. They are just as helpless as everyone else is. Many would not know how to survive if the system fell apart. This increases their feeling of helplessness and need for more control and power.”

I paused for a bit to think about all she was conveying and the idea of letting go of needing to be parented by the infrastructures of the world. Then I began thinking whether this same premise could be applied in our personal lives. Suddenly, I heard Mother Nature say, “Outgrow all of your parents.”

“Outgrow all of my parents?” I asked, wanting more clarity.

“Yes,” She said, “and when it comes to your family dynamics, you can outgrow your need as an adult to still have a personal ‘mother’ and ‘father’ as well as the need for rituals and traditions around those relationships…as other mystics have.”

“What does that entail?” I asked.

“It entails ceasing to need them anymore to provide a parental role,” She imparted. “You outgrow any idea of servitude or obligation to them.”

“That is a hard concept to think about,” I admitted. “We can still have a relationship with them, right?”

“Yes, you can have a relationship if you want one, but you don’t have to need one and do not need to feel obligated,” She informed. “What binds you to what doesn’t serve you is your sense of obligation. If a relationship is holding you back and binding you to codependency and dysfunction, you can trust that it is okay to sever the bond. When you feel obligated, you keep the whole system of dysfunction going from the personal level to the collective one.”

“I see,” I said.

“As you mature into adulthood,” She conveyed, “a parental relationship should become symbiotic rather than adhering to a hierarchy or power dynamic. If the relationship is symbiotic, it need not be severed. However, the fallacy is that you need to continue to see such individuals as your ‘mothers’ and ‘fathers’ even after they have outgrown this role. Instead of seeing them as mothers and fathers, begin to see them as sisters and brothers instead.”

She could see that I found this puzzling, so she clarified, “I mean to suggest that your semantics and rules seem to get in the way of things. ‘Mother’ and ‘father’ are just words after all. However, the thought of the words ‘mother’ and ‘father’ automatically brings up the idea of hierarchy and obligation. So change the words to ‘sister’ and ‘brother’ as you mature, so that you can begin to see the individuals who raise you in a new light. You are all, as humans, a family of sisters and brothers with one True Mother and one True Father who love you.”

“That has a kind of Native American feel to it,” I noted.

“Yes,” She asserted.

“But, it would be a challenge to begin to see the person who gave birth to me as a sister,” I acknowledged.

“She is your sister, though,” was my guide’s reply. “This is what you have yet to understand as a species. Her physical form came from the earth and will go to the earth when her soul passes over to the other side. She came out of a womb, and you came out of hers in order to learn various lessons. However, in the realm of the spiritual, she is not your mother. She is merely given the opportunity to take care of you within the physical world for a short time. In the animal world, the bonds between mother and child can break once the child matures. After this point, the child is not obligated to the mother for visitation or anything else.”

“I never thought of that,” I confessed.

A pause passed between us and then I decided to take the conversation in another direction. “What about the adult-like way to live?” I asked.

“We are talking about the adult way to live,” was Nature’s response.

“Oh, so it is about maturing out of dependencies of all kinds,” I observed.

“It is about learning how to become self-sufficient in the world in ways you are equal to each other rather than inserted into a hierarchy of one form or another,” was Her response. “When you no longer subscribe to being inserted into a hierarchy, and are no longer dependent on what is above or below you, you can enter into a more unified and cooperative stance.”

“But not in a codependent way,” I clarified.

“That is right,” She said. “Your current mode of connecting with others is largely formed around your habits of dependency and codependency on one another. Instead of being codependent or dependent, you could learn to be interdependent.”

“Can you explain what interdependence looks like?” I asked. “Because it seems as if it would still be a form of dependency, right?”

“With interdependency, you realize your equality with others,” She validated. “You can become communal-minded without needing to have power over the community or to serve any one part of it.”

“So, is it like communism, then?” I wondered.

“With communism, there is still a leader to force that type of philosophy on people, whether they see the benefit or not. The idea of force inserts a hierarchy,” She explained. “I would more liken the idea of interdependence and sharing to how a monastery operates. The motive is a spiritual one, and each person who joins a monastery does so by choice and because they want to partake in that kind of shared lifestyle. Monasteries that are self-supportive and self-sustaining can find ways to live and operate that are less dependent upon the patriarchal and other systems of the world. They have a more gentle approach to life. Some of them farm or grow their own foods, make their own cheeses, etc. They live a simple, quiet life that is focused on the benefit of the community above the individual. Such a lifestyle allows them more spiritual freedom and movement without interference from the rest of the world.”

“Those kinds of communities are already arising,” I affirmed.

“Yes,” She agreed, “because in the world right now, your biggest issue is with power, both metaphorically and your actual sources of energy. These types of communities help you to tackle both these issues in ways that help you learn to support one another to grow and evolve, rather than continuing to support a system that blocks and sabotages this process.”

“I imagine this is what realizing oneness is all about too,” I put forth.

“Of course,” She responded. “When you truly understand oneness, you will understand it is not about what you can create, hold, or protect for yourself—through copyrights, trademarks, or other signifiers of ownership—but what you can contribute to the whole.”

“I guess a good place to start is through learning how to share and become more community-minded,” I spoke.

“It is learning where and how you are placing your energy and why you place it in a particular place,” She advised me. “It is about your service. So begin to ask yourselves what you are serving in the world and why? Who does your service truly benefit in the greater picture of things, and what does this entity that benefits stand for? For you can either stand for what is outside of God or stand for what belongs to heaven and God’s sons.”

While I was sure there was more that could be said about the adult way to live, I needed to take a break from writing. I thanked Mother Nature for her wisdom and just sat by the river for a while, watching the ducks paddling by.



[1] Mother Nature is referring to herself through much of this conversation using a third person tone.

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